“We all have our quirks” Life Lessons We’re Learning Along the Way

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What makes our team tick? There are 8 of us – 7 women, 1 man – and we’re opinionated, strong minded, creative, hardworking, committed individuals and we all certainly have our quirks!

We pride ourselves on offering only the very best to our clients. We thrive on our successes and commitment to philanthropy, pull each other up out of our failures, rely on the qualities of one another to jump over hurdles and work together as a team to overcome obstacles.

We grow as a team by learning and growing as individuals. Each one of us takes the time to read, engage and expand our minds through books, articles, social media, videos, seminars, webinars, conferences and plain old good conversation.

Here, we’ve highlighted some of our favorite quotes, lessons we’re learning from books that we’re currently reading and key take-a-ways from recent experiences. We hope you find this list insightful and wish you all the best in discovering your very best self and team!

What You Focus on Expands!

For all of you ‘Type A’ personalities out there…these 2 are for you!

#1: “Not my circus, not my monkeys, not my problem.”  This may sound like an “I don’t care” phrase, which it is in a way, but I’m taking it deeper than face value.  It’s very difficult to be a Type A personality in life in general, and possibly even more so in Real Estate.  As someone who loves paperwork and organization (hello!  A!), sometimes I have a difficult time understanding a different perspective, say, that of an agent.  Both agents and administrative personnel have VERY important jobs.  The end result is even the same: to successfully navigate and close a transaction and help a client succeed in selling and/or buying a home.  To learn the art of “letting go” of circumstances beyond my control will certainly take me a lifetime, especially when every fiber in my being is telling me to “HOLD ON!  Tightly!”.

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This brings me to #2, a recent post from one of my favorite bloggers, Carly Heitlinger, entitled “Going with the flow when you’re Type A”.  Carly reflects on being Type A, and how she’s learned to tone the control-factor down since graduating from college.  Her list includes breathing (taking a pause and evaluating herself and her response to a given situation, which I can relate back to the Emotional Intelligence book Sarah and Peter recommended!), volunteering (in a group setting, when she feels a loss of control and is able to recognize it, she grabs some coffee and snacks for everyone to show she’s a team player.  This also helps get her mind off of the lack of control), fake it ’til you make it (acting a certain way, read: less controlling, more go-with-the-flow, for a period of time eventually ingrains the habit into her life.), and finally control what only you can control (attitude).

My takeaways are to truly use the Emotional Intelligence book recommendations for my personality type, which is to “watch myself like a hawk,” and objectively observe myself and my reactions to a given situation.

For those of you who have been unsuccessful finding quality relationships, these are for you!

This week I’m watching a new TV series called “Girlfriends Guide to Divorce” The quote I’ve repeated numerous times this week: “Nobody truly interesting is universally liked” — of course I want people to like me however as I am getting older, I am ok with someone not liking me.

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I’m realizing that making friends is more difficult as you get older and I think it really comes down to people not being that interesting! I think it’s because people are trying to be like each other and less like themselves!

This month I am still in the middle of the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. My take-a-ways so far have been;

The big secret to dealing with people is to remember: The deepest urge in human nature is “the desire to be important” -John Dewey. This is important when making new relationships and building the ones I already have. I am learning to talk less and listen more.

“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that persons angle as well as from your own” – yet 90% of the people on this earth ignore it 90% of the time.

Wise Advice: “First, arouse in the other person an eager want.  He who can do this has the whole world with him.  He who cannot, walks a lonely way.” This speaks to me with real estate and helping clients. A lot of people don’t know what they want or if they want it all.  However, we all know we cannot have it all…sometimes even those with the most money.

For those of you wondering if what you’re doing is ‘enough’ in this life…read on!

I just finished reading ‘Two by Two’ written by Nicholas Sparks. This story is about a man who thought he had it all. The perfect job, the perfect wife, the perfect daughter…until one day, his entire world flipped upside down.

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As an unmarried, 34-year-old woman, who’s been in a relationship with the same man for 9 1/2 years, I am a sucker for a great love story and truly believe that everything happens for a reason. As much as the thought of marriage frightens me and the thought of divorce scares me even more, the way this character handles himself throughout the entire process is proof that humans can be weak by nature but strong by choice. Ending a relationship is never easy but there are so many other aspects of one’s life that are worth every single minute to fight for. You will always figure it out and if you never give up, there’s only one direction you can go…

I am currently reading ‘Intentional Living’ written by John C. Maxwell. The insights that he shares are invaluable.

I’ve learned that when you do things with a purpose and are intentional about the decisions that you make and actions you perform, only YOU have the power to enable change. Do things with good intentions, not for recognition. Don’t focus on what others are doing or what they’re not doing. We’re in this life with the control over 1 person and it’s up to us to focus on what we personally can do, say & change to make our world a better place.

Quotes of Wisdom

“Let today be the day you give up who you’ve been for who you can become” (Unknown)

 “Take a stance and focus on making the changes that you’ve always wanted to make but haven’t known how before now.” (Unknown)

“Friendship is a wildly underrated medication” (Anna Deavere Smith)

“Surround yourself with those who “get” you, it’s amazing what a little laughter can do for the soul.” (Unknown)

“Don’t be so thirsty from every opportunity that you drink from every cup handed to you. That’s how you get poisoned” (LivingLuxuryAZ)

“Not every idea was created for you (your team), research, implement, test, tweak, repeat.” (Unknown)

“Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution” (rockthomas)

“Negativity is contagious, it’s so much easier to be happy!” (Uknown)

“Everyone has a chapter they don’t read outloud” (Unknown)

“Don’t judge – you have no idea what others have been through or what they’re currently going through. (Unknown)

“How you treat me is your karma, how I react is mine” (CV Pillay)

“Character is how you treat those you can do nothing for you” (Unknown)

“We learn more about the character of people on one OFF day than on all their ON days put together” (Greg S. Reid – Millionaire Mentor)

“How you handle a stressful situation says a lot about your ability to communicate effectively. No one wants to be known as the person who flies off the handle when things get bumpy. Take a step back, breathe and think before you speak.” (Unknown)

 

***Key Takeaways from the National Achievers Congress @ The Infinite Center***

 

Sara Blakely – CEO & Founder of Spanx

“Say what you want out loud to the universe.”

“Learn how to be a no-limit person.”

“There is a hidden blessing in every situation.”

“Find out when your best ‘think time’ is.”

“What you don’t know can be your greatest asset.”

“Sell the problem you’re solving, not just the product.”

“TRUST YOUR GUT.”

“Know where you are and where you want to go.”

“Disturbances cause action.”

“Know what you want out of life.”

 

Gary Vaynerchuk – VaynerMedia, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker

“Take control of your life and never look back.”

“Stop caring what other people do and think.”

“Stop dwelling on old shit.”

“What are you doing with your 18 hours/day?”

“Defense is short term, offense is long term.”

“Give more than what you want in return.”

“Karma is practice.”

“Don’t try to be #1 if you’re better at being ½.”

 

Tony Robbins – Author, Entrepreneur, Philanthropist, Life Coach

“Complexity is the enemy of execution.”

“Failure is never a lack of resources, it’s a lack of resourcefulness.”

” Emotions are the ultimate resource.”

“Figure out your emotional ‘home’. ”

“Every moment is a fresh moment.”

“Clarity is power.”

“Success leaves clues, study what you want to achieve – trust the science of achievement.”

“FOCUS – the power of absolute clarity & commitment.”

“Massive action is the cure all.”

“Life happens FOR you, not TO you.”

“Commit to actually growing, if you grow, you have something to give.”

 

Please share with us your favorite quotes, books, mentors & more. We’d love to hear from you!

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